Why does one get married? There could be a myriad of reasons why one would marry. But of all the reasons that one could come up with, the most natural and the most honest reason would be the need for companionship. Human beings need a constant element of support and friendship, and that is the primary role a spouse must fulfil.
A spouse, whether a husband or a wife, is a source of strength and empathy; wisdom and advice; smiles and laughter; opinions and well-intentioned admonishments, and an unflinching shoulder to lean on.
A perfect and ideal marriage will have all these elements and more. But a perfect marriage is just that, perfect—and hence unreal and largely impractical. Frequent fights, unending arguments, cold wars and cold shoulders, followed by cajoling sweet talk to bring the other person around, are quite a common occurrence in most marriages. The first few days or months of a marriage are joyful and exciting, and just as sullen, sour, mundane, and even bitter for some as the marriage goes on. Then does this mean there is no real way to remain happy in one’s marriage and maintain that happiness? Is this what all marriages come to in the end?
There are a few important aspects in a marriage that one must remember to ensure that marriages don’t turn sour and the couple stays happily married in reality.
*The most important aspect in a marriage is respect. Love without respect for one’s spouse is not long lasting. There will be times in a marriage when love can become a matter of question; that is when respect for one’s spouse comes to the rescue. It is also one of the most undervalued and ignored aspects in a marriage. While mutual respect alone isn’t sufficient for a successful marriage, it is just as important to ensure one wouldn’t do anything that might hurt the other. Respect is also the first step to establishing trust in a marriage.
* The second most important aspect is forgiveness. There are bound to be countless scenarios in a marriage when one can get upset and angry with one’s spouse. Being able to forgive your better half and move on is a crucial element in maintaining happiness. Little squabbles and tiny adjustments must all be forgiven and taken in stride, after all, one must realize that each person is different, and personalities are bound to clash. The more accommodating and forgiving we are, the more chances we shall have at a happy marriage.
* The third and final aspect is to always remember that you and your spouse are a team. An ideal husband and wife are never working against or competing with each other. In even the smallest of issues, a couple thinks as one; solves issues as one; handles life’s troubles—both big and small—as one. One must never try to put the other one down or belittle one’s spouse ever. Keeping these three details in mind can greatly help one live a happy married life. Tackling hurdles in life and getting over the occasional arguments will become easier and marriage in itself will be smoother.