What happens when someone declares us worthless?
They may blame us, scold us, shout at us, make fun of our efforts or ignore us as if we don’t exist.
We’ll certainly feel bad, won’t we?
This feeling of worthlessness will produce hate. And if this hate is left unrecognized, it will trigger a more powerful innervation of anger.
Anger is a powerful emotion. But do you believe a wave of well-managed anger can be a favourable emotion that motivates you to make positive changes?
Most of the time, we express anger in inappropriate ways, including:
Anger explosions – people tend to get violent, enraged, and use their anger to manipulate others and feel powerful.
Anger repression – some people consider anger as a bad emotion and choose to suppress it. However, bottled anger often turns into depression and anxiety.
Now, after reading it so far, you must have pictured some situations where you had felt this worthlessness that triggered your anger.
And if they were superior to you, the possibility is that you have suppressed your anger, and you must have been anxious for a long time.
It might be in a profession or in your personal life.
And now you must be eager to know the solution, aren’t you?
Well, the first thing we need to learn is to recognize our anger at the very first stage, not as a “bad” emotion, rather a normal emotion.
Witness it as if you are looking at your own emotion. Don’t suppress or explode but accept it, as if you are a third person witnessing your anger.
Next, try to pinpoint the exact reason why you are feeling angry.
Once you have identified the reason for your anger, you can come up with different remedies.
But the most important part of this task is to keep yourself calm.
Realize that all the thoughts swarming in your mind are because of this emotion.
And the best part is any emotion no matter how strong has a lifespan of ninety seconds only.
According to Harvard-trained neuroanatomist, Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, “When a person reacts to something in their environment, there’s a ninety seconds chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop.”
Now, can you deal with your anger, thinking it’s just a matter of ninety seconds “Chemical Locha”?