Al-Bukhari and Muslim narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or else keep silent.” On my walk to the Mosque today, the route I picked allowed me some valuable time to consider the various actions one might take during a disagreement and how Silence can be the greatest solution as per the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Al-Bukhari and Muslim narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or else keep silent.” One of the most difficult jobs during an argument is to think from the other person’s perspective first and then apply your own to determine where the difference of opinion lies. However, only Wisdom can help us take this approach.
So, what does it mean to be wise during an argument? When our logical explanation loses weight, we tend to raise our voice, hence being wise involves avoiding raising one’s voice during an argument. Allah says in the Quran- “And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys.” (31:19)” *Being wise is realising that people’s ears aren’t always the best destination for every word you say. Never say anything negative to them since you have no idea what they are going through in their lives. *Being wise is acknowledging the truth that you must be silent when someone is attempting to convey their feelings and expecting your heart to listen rather than your tongue to speak. *Being wise means acknowledging that not all of your assumptions are valid, and that you don’t have to prove yourself correct all of the time. You can also learn from your mistakes. *Being wise is recognising the repercussions of your erroneous view. *Being wise is accepting that you only need to be heard by the Creator when your words are misconstrued by his Creation. *Being wise means realising that you must refrain from saying anything depressing in order to fulfil Huqooq-ul-Ibaad. Being wise is preparing yourself for Allah’s command to “enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong.”
How can we acquire a portion of the Wisdom from Allah (s.w.t)? 1) By asking Allah to grant us wisdom. 2) Quran is one of the means through which humans may acquire a portion of the Wisdom available from Allah as mentioned in the Quran- Indeed, We have made it an Arabic Quran that you might understand. And indeed, it is, in the Mother of the Book with Us, Exalted and full of wisdom. (Quran-43:3-4) 3) By learning from the life of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH The Wisdom of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) is actually his Sunnah, which all Muslims are obliged to adhere to and implement in their lives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the highest standard for what it means to live as a wise human being.