Ten ways that make you a Perfect Spouse
Category : Marriage Special
Mercy is not an act of a show-off or a kind of attitude to flash when one is in need. In fact, mercy is an additional agent that patches up a rift or binds the moods. When in anger, it’s the mercy that cools down. When in a pensive mood, it provides the required ease. Be merciful, be a solution.

When it comes to husband and wife relationship there always remains an inconclusive wish. On the husband’s part, why not me always? Whereas on the wife’s part a thought… Am I that good and why is he not that appreciative? A healthy and a vibrant relationship ensures a healthy family and of course good-humored children like what we are today. Let us keep our heads up to get enlightened with the ways that strengthens the bonding.

Love

Husband and wife relationship is the only one in the world that can be formed and dissolved; the rest are blood and familial bonding that remain no matter what. Love plays a pivotal role and a cohesive force that cements the relationship. Love is not a space and time restricted relationship to be specific to the bed during the night or particular time of a day. Perhaps, it defines the moments of a sense of respect and an intense madness that get reflected through their caring and sharing attitudes. Strengthen your relationship with love as its tenacious base.

Togetherness

An increasing sense of love cultivates a sense of belongingness and togetherness. The couple never feels lonely no matter when in home alone or engulfed with problems. A wife feels that she has a shoulder to rely and cry on and a husband feels a selfless companion. Let the feelings of togetherness be like an apparel to you. A husband is an apparel of his wife and so is she to him, neat and clean, adorned with glittering colors and fragrance of high moral values. The finest form of fabric of which the apparel is made comprises mutual love and trust.

Affectionate Calling

The love oozes out of the heart with words like ‘honey’ and ‘sweetheart’. We often pronounce that for the spouse. Though not really sure of the taste of the spelled words, we do find a kind of sweetness in calling. Let there be loads of words of affectionate calling, used both in cheerful and serious moods.

Mercy

Mercy is not an act of a show-off or a kind of attitude to flash when one is in need. In fact, mercy is an additional agent that patches up a rift or binds the moods. When in anger, it’s the mercy that cools down. When in a pensive mood, it provides the required ease. Be merciful, be a solution.

Ambitions & Dreams

Along with a spouse, we do have our goals and ambitions, the accomplishment of which is characterized by the day and night struggle. There may be many ways of their fulfillment. But the one that magnifies passion for the dream is a spouse’s helping hand, a better wish and a thought that, yes it is mine. A husband and wife can be a source of inspiration for each other to get motivated and succeed in realization of their ambitions and dreams.

Chastity

Most of the time, it is the loyalty of the partner that plays its role in worsening the relationship. The expectation of a husband about wife’s chastity speaks of his intense love for her. Possessiveness with this kind of a concern is warranted. But there should be an element of mutual trust between the spouses without which, only an angel can be a cause of solace.

Obedience

Spouses should listen to each other. It doesn’t mean that they should act like a slave. Each one has their own freedom. By obedience here, it means the outcome of love and togetherness that get illuminated with an equally luminous attitude of caring and sharing. What if a husband washes his wife’s clothes or becomes a partner in cooking? And what’s the harm in a wife’s doing her husband’s work? The crux of the attitudes reveals an addition in mutual respect and love; else the term obedience of husband or wife is generally regarded as a kind of enslavement.

Children

God bestows children as a gift of mutual love and trust that exists between husband and wife. If any one wishes to see the mercy of God and certification of the sanctity of

Love is not a space and time restricted relationship to be specific to the bed during the night or particular time of a day

the relationship, then children are the best illustrations. Look at them. They prove to be comforting to eyes and solace to the heart. With this perception there will never exist any distinction between a baby boy and a baby girl. If one is fruit, the other is another form of sweetness, both satisfies the taste buds. Be it girl or boy, in the real sense, the couple has been bestowed with Divine Kindness. This sense itself is so beneficial that it adds ages to the relationship.
Wishful Look

Just look at the way your spouse sleeps, works, walks, talks, thinks, eats and does all sorts of activities. Staring with wishful eyes adds vigor and vitality to the heart which is already filled with mutual trust and love. The replica of such a look gets reflected when you lovingly put a morsel in your husband/wife’s mouth, when you smile at his/her face, when you deem, even a glimpse.

Common Goals

There is more to add to the wish list of the spouse. Let there be some common goals. There may be many ways to set these, like sharing of personal experiences and observations, bringing up children, reading, writing, serving the needy, savings and investments. And of course, something for the betterment of those spouses whose relationship has been marred with bitterness and mistrust. 

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  1. Mohammad Azeez Mulla

    Good article for happy life….

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